|Rochas S/S 'll|
This led me to thinking about how my baby insomnia isn't alleviated at all by the incredible volume of information out there for mothers on the web, which is so confusing, contradictory and overwhelming- dummies good, dummies bad, controlled crying evil, sleep training (the same, different name) good, comfort feeding bad, demand feeding good, routines good, baby-led weaning good, expressing milk bad, drinking out of cups good, spouts bad, swaddling good, rocking bad, formula bad, breast-feeding good, leche league, lanolin, latch etc etc etc. All the options having reasonable justifications, all the different answers to my questions putting my head in a whirl.
I'm starting to think that bringing up a baby in a complete information vacuum (or at least without the internet) would be better. In general my mum's generation seem a lot more laid back about parenting and would laugh at the idea of 'Hot-Housing, ''Baby Sensory Development Classes' and 'Nappuccinos'- I honestly think that they were able to make decisions and stick with them because they didn't have such resource. They were more able to think for themselves without the reflex action of typing into the search engine for answers. It seems that instead of really being to enjoy parenting, we are hyper-anxious to seek web-affirmation for our every decision. Don't we just need to have more faith in ourselves? I do realise that diminishing actual communities are being substituted with online communities and that access to the web can for some, ensure that mums aren't isolated. But I am still led to pose a shameful Carrie Bradshaw-like question about life in general- Is it the fact that we have too many choices, that limits us?
So what is the link to fashion? Well happily, having too many style choices, in opposition to the 'philosophy' of Gok Wan, is never a bad thing. Being able to switch on my laptop and browse the latest collections, is an immediate happiness boost and must be a contributing factor to me not having hit the bottle to counter my sleep deprivation. The online fashion community may be critical, sometimes chi-chi and extremely demanding but designers are never overwhelming, only inspiring and at least twice a year, everything changes and positively! If Dolce and Gabbana shows feminine white frippery, that's fantastic, if Rochas presents granny chic that's lovely too. There is room for oversizing, bodycon, minimalism and embellishment. If I make a bad style choice, the only ego I will be damaging is my own (not worrying about child psychologists years later), if I seek fashion advice, I need not worry if I decide to change my mind a day later. Contrariness is almost lauded. Fashion is purely subjective, brilliantly shallow and any guilt I get from a fashion choice relates to my bank balance only. Fashion to me is mental caffeine and fits around my baby boy, providing a welcome diversion from my parenting choices, its genius is that within fashion, there are no real contradictions, just concoctions.
Anyway, he bawled for ten minutes, making noises like a goat being strangled and now is sound asleep- an hour and a half so far and I can't wait for him to wake up. I have posted up a little 'caffeine', for you to enjoy.
|Limi Feu S/S '11|
|Anne Valerie Hash S/S '11|